Michelle Obama once stated that she will “never forgive” Donald Trump for spreading a conspiracy theory about her husband. Trump, of course, fired back with the most graceful of responses, claiming that he will never forget her husband’s policies, which Trump seems to believe were ruining America. Ah, the art of subtlety.

Politics: The never-ending circus. And let’s be real—policy can be really awful.

Obama was great at pretending we could all just sing “Kumbaya,” but maybe it is not so imposiible. Enter the hero of forgiveness: Nelson Mandela.

Mandela, the guy who spent 20 years in prison, didn’t come out with a „Hey, I’m back, and I’m going to make all you apartheid guys pay!” Instead, he gave us the truly shocking response of… forgiveness. And guess what? It worked. Mandela won the Nobel Peace Prize and became a global symbol of hope. That’s the power of forgiveness, apparently. But, hey, don’t take my word for it.

But here’s the million-dollar question: Can we really forgive and forget the misdeeds of our enemies? Sometimes, no. Sometimes, people do things that are so beyond the pale, forgiveness feels like a joke. But maybe instead of “forgive and forget,” we should just “forgive and remember.” Because, really, what’s the point of forgiving if we forget everything that went wrong in the first place?